Its been a great few days. We have been having fun with mom and Slushie (whom I'm sure are now happy that I have blogged about them). Ryders party was a HUGE success, in part of mom's pool. The kids LOVED it, whats with kids and water? The day was super hot - which I guess was why the pool was a great hit. There were a few water fights and some thrown in the pool. It was great to see friends and family both old and new.
Tomorrow is the BIG day for him and mom. WOW 3 and 57.....crazy!!! We will be celebrating with mom shopping, and Ryder will spend the day at the dinosaur camp then with his dad and big bro -the we are treating them with salmon and prawns....yum!!! Tomorrow morning will bring Ryder with more gifts...if you can believe it! I think this is the first year that he will totally get it, although his older brother will help him out where he has shortfalls.
The weather has been so wonderful. the days are filled with errans and then relaxing in the back yard, happy hour anywheres after 1 pm, not too sure I want this to end! Thank god its only day 1 of Brents holidays! Lots more to come!! Not too much to really post, I guess I'm too relaxed or drunk... you choose. Stay tuned!
Monday, July 26, 2010
Friday, July 23, 2010
2 weeks of holiday bliss
Its been a few days so I thought I'd type a quick post while I wait for the kids to fall asleep. Today we start 2 weeks of holidays, man I'm excited to have someone else home and helping me with the kids.
We have company for the next week too - lots to celebrate. Yesterday brent and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary! We will really be celebrating next week when we go downtown for dinner and the night - thanks to Slushie and mom! tomorrow is Ryder;s 3rd birthday party - 27 people coming to celebrate the festivities. Tuesday mom and Ryder's real birthday - we also hope to get a visit to the USA one day next week, and then for the long weekend we are Kelowna bound! crazy busy times lets hope the weather stays.
I have pretty much given myself a 2 week holiday from working out too. Just can't seem to get motivated with all the company, good food, and drinks surronding me! Speaking of drink where's my Palm Bay??? Well time to join the fam in the backyard. Hopefully the kids will get a good nights sleep and will be full of life for the party tomorrow. We'll get some pictures on here at some point.
We have company for the next week too - lots to celebrate. Yesterday brent and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary! We will really be celebrating next week when we go downtown for dinner and the night - thanks to Slushie and mom! tomorrow is Ryder;s 3rd birthday party - 27 people coming to celebrate the festivities. Tuesday mom and Ryder's real birthday - we also hope to get a visit to the USA one day next week, and then for the long weekend we are Kelowna bound! crazy busy times lets hope the weather stays.
I have pretty much given myself a 2 week holiday from working out too. Just can't seem to get motivated with all the company, good food, and drinks surronding me! Speaking of drink where's my Palm Bay??? Well time to join the fam in the backyard. Hopefully the kids will get a good nights sleep and will be full of life for the party tomorrow. We'll get some pictures on here at some point.
Monday, July 19, 2010
How much is too neighbourly?
Not too sure why this bugs me so much but it does and now you'll have to read about it. As some of you know we have an amazing large backyard - one that we have set up for the summer very nicely I might add. The kids have a ton of things to choose from to occupy themselves with; the trampoline, swing set, water table, slip n slide, water guns, nerf guns, badminton, bocce ball, footballs, soccer balls, stepping stones to make, painting...the list never ends. I have made it my personal gaol to try and keep the kids within the backyard so I can keep a better eye on them. For the most part my children have complied.
This sounds great right, now for the neighbours. We have an Indian family living right beside us that we have gotten to know well as their youngest is the same age as Tyson. The issue with this is that no one supervises this child, so when he is outside he is my responsibility. Now i can avoid this by not allowing him to play with Ty, but I'm not that much of a bitch. The mom works shift work, the dad is on the road driving truck lots, and the grandma doesn't speak a word of English. hte 2 older children say inside all day playing video games or watching tv. The oldest boy is very disrespectful to me and his younger brother and friends (ie tyson) so when the rare occasion that he is outside I make a point of being around.
The next friend is a neighbour a few homes down. He is great for the most part. He is very respectful of our things, the little kids, and me. He listens well and plays very nicely with Tyson. He will sometimes not want to go home when we go in for lunch and dinner and wants to play in the backyard or downstairs, which I quickly put a stop too. His mom and dad work full time and grandma and grandpa take care of him during the day. Again we hardly ever see them supervising. Not a big deal really.
Lastly, the new friend as of this week, is the neighbour in the back. They are also Indian, and by the looks of the house and the way they keep it, not very financially stable. I know the little boy has climbed the stupid cherry tree on many occasions and watched from afar the boys playing and I'm sure he wanted to join in. Well the opportunity came when he and his sister were delivering the paper and Tyson asked him to play. ( he had bkicked his soccer ball over the fence a few times - on purpose I believe so he could come over and knock on the door). He was/is very polite and well mannered. The issue here is; now he won't stop coming around.
Today for an example, we had a play date all afternoon and he was not around, but when we took the kids inside he scaled the fence, and started going for the toys. I told him we were inside for a while and we'll be out after dinner. He asked what time and i said around 6. (I get that he wants to play with the toys and kids, cause it really doesn't look like he has that much). Anyways true to my words we all went outside - in the front first riding bikes -side note Ryder finally rode a 2 wheeler with training wheels today - way to go Ryder; then we went in back. The kids (boys) played outside for a good hour. No boy came over - and if he was home he could have heard us as we are not the quiet family.
We take the kids in, get them ready for bed and Brent and I are talking on the bed. I then hear him (the boy) playing with our kids nerf gun. He is on our side of the fence playing with our toys. This hit a fuse with me. Brent told him that the boys are now in for the night and that we will see him tomorrow. But seriously....why is it my job to parent these children. I don't mean to sound racist, as I'm sure this is coming across that way, but I truly don't understand how this particular ethnic can let the kids go over to someones house totally unsupervised for hours on end. Please help me understand. And any suggestions to overcome this constant battle I would appreciate too. I will have a conversation with the boy in back tomorrow and tell him that unless we are outside he is NOT to touch/play with our stuff. Is that mean of me? I love having the kids outside, but I hate the extra parenting that I have to do with the other children. Its totally exhausting! Its one thing if we invite the child over for a play date....then yes it is up to me, but kids in the neighbourhood....is that really my responsibility? Don't I have enough with my 3 kids?
Rant rant rant. I know, at least its off my chest now and i can sleep at night. Lets see what tomorrow brings!
This sounds great right, now for the neighbours. We have an Indian family living right beside us that we have gotten to know well as their youngest is the same age as Tyson. The issue with this is that no one supervises this child, so when he is outside he is my responsibility. Now i can avoid this by not allowing him to play with Ty, but I'm not that much of a bitch. The mom works shift work, the dad is on the road driving truck lots, and the grandma doesn't speak a word of English. hte 2 older children say inside all day playing video games or watching tv. The oldest boy is very disrespectful to me and his younger brother and friends (ie tyson) so when the rare occasion that he is outside I make a point of being around.
The next friend is a neighbour a few homes down. He is great for the most part. He is very respectful of our things, the little kids, and me. He listens well and plays very nicely with Tyson. He will sometimes not want to go home when we go in for lunch and dinner and wants to play in the backyard or downstairs, which I quickly put a stop too. His mom and dad work full time and grandma and grandpa take care of him during the day. Again we hardly ever see them supervising. Not a big deal really.
Lastly, the new friend as of this week, is the neighbour in the back. They are also Indian, and by the looks of the house and the way they keep it, not very financially stable. I know the little boy has climbed the stupid cherry tree on many occasions and watched from afar the boys playing and I'm sure he wanted to join in. Well the opportunity came when he and his sister were delivering the paper and Tyson asked him to play. ( he had bkicked his soccer ball over the fence a few times - on purpose I believe so he could come over and knock on the door). He was/is very polite and well mannered. The issue here is; now he won't stop coming around.
Today for an example, we had a play date all afternoon and he was not around, but when we took the kids inside he scaled the fence, and started going for the toys. I told him we were inside for a while and we'll be out after dinner. He asked what time and i said around 6. (I get that he wants to play with the toys and kids, cause it really doesn't look like he has that much). Anyways true to my words we all went outside - in the front first riding bikes -side note Ryder finally rode a 2 wheeler with training wheels today - way to go Ryder; then we went in back. The kids (boys) played outside for a good hour. No boy came over - and if he was home he could have heard us as we are not the quiet family.
We take the kids in, get them ready for bed and Brent and I are talking on the bed. I then hear him (the boy) playing with our kids nerf gun. He is on our side of the fence playing with our toys. This hit a fuse with me. Brent told him that the boys are now in for the night and that we will see him tomorrow. But seriously....why is it my job to parent these children. I don't mean to sound racist, as I'm sure this is coming across that way, but I truly don't understand how this particular ethnic can let the kids go over to someones house totally unsupervised for hours on end. Please help me understand. And any suggestions to overcome this constant battle I would appreciate too. I will have a conversation with the boy in back tomorrow and tell him that unless we are outside he is NOT to touch/play with our stuff. Is that mean of me? I love having the kids outside, but I hate the extra parenting that I have to do with the other children. Its totally exhausting! Its one thing if we invite the child over for a play date....then yes it is up to me, but kids in the neighbourhood....is that really my responsibility? Don't I have enough with my 3 kids?
Rant rant rant. I know, at least its off my chest now and i can sleep at night. Lets see what tomorrow brings!
Sunday, July 18, 2010
There is never enough time
So the camping in th back went ok. The youngest boy (Ryder) was awake until around 10 pm, and I left the tent after the movie finished and the oldest (Tyson) and dad were calling it a night. I stayed up way too late starting this blog and called it a night at 12:30 ish. We'll 4:30 I awoke to Ryder and Dad coming in the house. Rydr had peed the sleeping bag. Crap! We are trying to night train him, and I have now decied he is no where ready for this task. I guess we were a bit premature on it, afterall he'll only be turning 3 in a week. That is a lot ot ask for his poor little bladder.
So now we are both awake, after we clean him up and bring tyson back into the house. (we couldn't leave him outside by himself, and Brent was not prepared to sleep on a pee soaked mattress. ) So hubby decides that it is a good time to have some "relations". It was very good "relations" but, I made him promise that I could sleep in then. I'm so lucky to have him. not only does he love making love to me, he even takes care of me in the morning. Ryder slept in until 9 something, and Tyson awoke once Ivy woke up...early! Again thanks Brent for taking care of them.
Next thing I know its after noon and we have accomplished not much. I bit of cleaning and tidying. The afternoon was spent trying to convince Tyson to nap...never happened but he rested. Then it was out to friends for a BBQ. That was a nice way to wrap up the evening, but its a lot of work taking all the kids out to someones house. Ivy wanted so bad to get in the pool...which made us nervous. We were the only ones there with young children ( under 5 and we have 2 of htem) so we spent the better part of the evening outside with the kids.
Once we were home and the kids were asleep I managed to get a few more things completed off my to do list. Its going to be a busy week - companys coming, 10 year anniversary, first summer activity for the kids, Ryder's 3 birthday celebration, and P90X to still complete (which I never did tonight)!
So no never enough time to get it all done. As it sands now its 11:35 and I'm sti;; up...not too sure why. I guess I have made some sort of promise to myself that I would make a valiant effort to keep this blog going. So that is the Sunday night news at our house. Peace out!
So now we are both awake, after we clean him up and bring tyson back into the house. (we couldn't leave him outside by himself, and Brent was not prepared to sleep on a pee soaked mattress. ) So hubby decides that it is a good time to have some "relations". It was very good "relations" but, I made him promise that I could sleep in then. I'm so lucky to have him. not only does he love making love to me, he even takes care of me in the morning. Ryder slept in until 9 something, and Tyson awoke once Ivy woke up...early! Again thanks Brent for taking care of them.
Next thing I know its after noon and we have accomplished not much. I bit of cleaning and tidying. The afternoon was spent trying to convince Tyson to nap...never happened but he rested. Then it was out to friends for a BBQ. That was a nice way to wrap up the evening, but its a lot of work taking all the kids out to someones house. Ivy wanted so bad to get in the pool...which made us nervous. We were the only ones there with young children ( under 5 and we have 2 of htem) so we spent the better part of the evening outside with the kids.
Once we were home and the kids were asleep I managed to get a few more things completed off my to do list. Its going to be a busy week - companys coming, 10 year anniversary, first summer activity for the kids, Ryder's 3 birthday celebration, and P90X to still complete (which I never did tonight)!
So no never enough time to get it all done. As it sands now its 11:35 and I'm sti;; up...not too sure why. I guess I have made some sort of promise to myself that I would make a valiant effort to keep this blog going. So that is the Sunday night news at our house. Peace out!
the power of conversation
So this is a new thing for me, its after midnight, baby is sleeping soundly while the boys (yes hubby too) are crashed out in the tent in the backyard. You'd think I'd use this quiet time to do something quiet like sleep, but no I decided to start a blog. Not too sure what I'll write on here, perhaps just the day to day activites, or use this as my diary of sorts, or maybe my exercise accountability. Whatever comes of it, as long as my typing and spelling improve then it won't be a total loss.
Having kids....love it - but parenting is hard. My hubby and I were talking about money and the future, always a great conversation to get into I know; anyway, the conversation went something like this.
"I don't fell we are saving very much month to month, when do you think we can retire? When do you think the mortgage will be paid off? We make great money and we are fortunate to have you at home with the kids, but is going to school the right thing for you/us right now? We never were like this years ago?" I kept thinking that was all before we had kids. So much has changed from those moments, and I know neither one of us would change things to the way it was in the past but I'm sure if we had that crystal ball we could relax some.
I'm getting to the paretning bit; we talked some more, while our 6 yr old and friend played on the Wii, the 3 and 18 month old jumped on the couches screaming at the top of their lungs, and we drank wine while preparing dinner. Multitasking at its best, a must have skill when being a parent. I was trying to tell my hubby that these are the times when most are cash strapped. In the past we were dinks (double income no kids), we had no one to answer to but ourselves. Now we have 3 to answer to, teach, dress, consoul, love, cherish, and the biggest disclipine. We can't compare life to what it once was. We now have to live for the present and hope that we make the right decisions for our kids and their future...to which his response would be; why do you think we are talking about this now? Yes dear it does all intertwine, like everything we do, it always relates back to the family and parenting.
So what was tthe outcome of the conversation? Dinner was ready, friend went home (which resulted in some tears), then it was on to the tent and movie night in the yard. Nothing was concluded 'cause we had to tend to the kids.
Its late I need sleep so I can function tomorrow. The boys will be up with the birds, and hubby will be looking to me for help. I hope I can ge on here regurarly, its kind of nice to talk to no one and get my thoughts out, even if they are totally all over the map. Until tomorrow, nite.
Having kids....love it - but parenting is hard. My hubby and I were talking about money and the future, always a great conversation to get into I know; anyway, the conversation went something like this.
"I don't fell we are saving very much month to month, when do you think we can retire? When do you think the mortgage will be paid off? We make great money and we are fortunate to have you at home with the kids, but is going to school the right thing for you/us right now? We never were like this years ago?" I kept thinking that was all before we had kids. So much has changed from those moments, and I know neither one of us would change things to the way it was in the past but I'm sure if we had that crystal ball we could relax some.
I'm getting to the paretning bit; we talked some more, while our 6 yr old and friend played on the Wii, the 3 and 18 month old jumped on the couches screaming at the top of their lungs, and we drank wine while preparing dinner. Multitasking at its best, a must have skill when being a parent. I was trying to tell my hubby that these are the times when most are cash strapped. In the past we were dinks (double income no kids), we had no one to answer to but ourselves. Now we have 3 to answer to, teach, dress, consoul, love, cherish, and the biggest disclipine. We can't compare life to what it once was. We now have to live for the present and hope that we make the right decisions for our kids and their future...to which his response would be; why do you think we are talking about this now? Yes dear it does all intertwine, like everything we do, it always relates back to the family and parenting.
So what was tthe outcome of the conversation? Dinner was ready, friend went home (which resulted in some tears), then it was on to the tent and movie night in the yard. Nothing was concluded 'cause we had to tend to the kids.
Its late I need sleep so I can function tomorrow. The boys will be up with the birds, and hubby will be looking to me for help. I hope I can ge on here regurarly, its kind of nice to talk to no one and get my thoughts out, even if they are totally all over the map. Until tomorrow, nite.
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